*Must Read* Stages of Self - Dependence, Independence and Interdependence

We all have a life journey which can be considered very similar. We are born to a Mother and Father who we depend upon. Who teaches us the ways of being. As men our fathers teach us what it is to be a Man and what it means to carry the family name.
Our life has a natural cycle of self and connection with your chosen partner. Alot of Men out there are stuck in dependence and are seeking a relationship with a woman going straight into Interdependence. This is not going to happen. As a Man you have to stand on your own feet. You have to be able to live without a woman and become independent in order to meet a girl who will move you into Interdependence. Interdependence is a relationship where both individuals are independent and come together to share themselves with each other with an understanding that their own happiness is their own responsibility.

Signs of being in Dependence:
- Listening to others opinions
- Caring what others think of you
- Are in group-think
- Does not like being alone
- Seeks comfort in unfamiliar places

Signs of being in Independence:
- Has formed own set of rules in life
- Enjoys his own company
- Loves own self and does not need to be validation
- Feels they are enough
- Fearless
- Makes own decisions
- Leads own life
- Does not think for others
- Believes he is the most important person in his life.

Signs of being in Interdependence:
- Still independent
- Able to make decision for both in the relationship.
- Does not jeopardise own happiness in relationship.


Stages of Life

1st                           2nd                            3rd
Dependence => Independence => Interdependence

If you are wanting to attract a woman you must be a strong independent man who is on his own path and journey in his life. If you are stuck in dependence you must transform yourself and life into Independence. With Independence comes confidence and belief in ones own self. Love who you are, set boundaries around you, enjoy your own freedom and be in control of your own self. Men who are independent minded are naturally more attractive, safe, secure, likeable, trustworthy, own their what they say, have purpose and have a compass in life. All the qualities and hallmarks of a Man.

Mark