As I am writing this article I have a relaxed smile upon my face thinking of all the things that make life plain and simply good. All the bullshit of life goes way and you think "damn this life is good". Simple is better. I think we always knew that from the very start of our beginning in life. Along the way our mind picks up on things, we absorb the things that defines us. Maturity is knowing thy self and going into the world unafraid pursuing what we want with confidence.
The one problem today is its so damn noisey. As we are bombarded with things through media and other peoples opinions. We begin to buy into what others tell us to be the right way. Our freedom is dictated by external matters and we begin to not know thy self and rely on others opinions of us to form who we are.
It can be great at the top of the world and then one day you will find yourself come crashing down burning crying like a baby who has had his favourite toy stolen from him and wants it back! External gratification is a dangerous thing. Those who seek it can potentially go insane or soon realise its not all that it plays out to be.
You don't have to take my word for it just have a look at celebrities and their relationship with the media. The media makes them gods then the next day takes it all away leaving them to seek more godliness from them. This is not healthy this is insanity built on hype.
Ones self should be a constant. A man must be a constant in his own world and must love himself to receive love from others. How do you define confidence? Well I believe there is two forms of it. One is fleeting and the other is constant. But the paradox is that the constant interacts with a fleeting world and the fleeting interacts with fleeting chance hoping for a constant.
Those men that rely on external sources for confidence run into more problems then those who self generate from within in a constant wave. The two are miles apart in their own quest. First one wants validation and wants to know he is valid in the world externally and the other believes he is valid and goes forth in his own belief that he is enough.
I would like to address both these two forms of confidence (External confidence and Internal confidence) in further articles. In both these artcles you will gain a greater understand of yourself as a man and you will become conscious in yourself. The purpose is for you to learn and become a more fulfilled individual with greater understanding.
Why is Confidence important?
To be able to interact in the world you must have a level of self confidence. Confidence is attractive and magnetic. Real confidence shows to another person that deep down you have a healthy level of love and respect for your own yourself.
I strongly suggest you read The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand as you will probably have one of those aha moments. For those who are not into reading long books then this is not the book for you. Alternatively you can get a copy of the audiobook listen in your down time or dismiss it all together. Ayn Rand is a fantastic advocate of men being in love with themselves first in order to receive love from women. She wrote many books that preach this whole heartedly.
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Mark
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