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Wednesday, 18 June 2014
Tuesday, 14 January 2014
Don Jon - Watch & Learn about Masculine ways
One of the most interesting things about Don Jon is the transformation of Jon around Barbara. His cocky confident exterior changes from a guy who is very sure of himself and what he wants into a guy who satisfies Barbara needs and desires instead of his own to get in her pants again and again. The relationship gets worse as Jon has to cover up his habits simple because Barbara does not like it. Jons masculinity and purpose fades as he becomes less sure of himself and his frustrations.
The last dialogue between Jon and Barbara makes it all clear when he realises she's selfish and is out for only herself.
Ultimately the good woman that changes a man is not one like Barbara but rather a woman like Esther who gives lovingly and openly with trust in the man. It makes him feel like the Man he truly should, that being one who is present and happy.
Jon mentions that him and Esther might not be the picture perfect couple in the eyes of society yet its a relationship much more full than any other he has had before and he wishes to continue as long as it will last.
The one message I got from the movie is to keep on your purpose and never forget yourself as being important. Don't sacrifice your own self for the stake of the pursuit of lust and desire.
You must stay true to yourself and find the girl who recognises you for who you are and worships you for who you are.
That lady who comes into your life is worth keeping.
The last dialogue between Jon and Barbara makes it all clear when he realises she's selfish and is out for only herself.
Ultimately the good woman that changes a man is not one like Barbara but rather a woman like Esther who gives lovingly and openly with trust in the man. It makes him feel like the Man he truly should, that being one who is present and happy.
Jon mentions that him and Esther might not be the picture perfect couple in the eyes of society yet its a relationship much more full than any other he has had before and he wishes to continue as long as it will last.
The one message I got from the movie is to keep on your purpose and never forget yourself as being important. Don't sacrifice your own self for the stake of the pursuit of lust and desire.
You must stay true to yourself and find the girl who recognises you for who you are and worships you for who you are.
That lady who comes into your life is worth keeping.
Thursday, 24 October 2013
The Rules of meeting
As males with testosterone pumping through our body when it comes to meeting a girl we act like a bull behind a gate already to unleash ourselves on them. We want to get the girl right away and bed her as soon as possible. This can be detrimental when it comes to getting with woman.
We forget our manners. We forget she's a person. We also forget she's got things other than you on her mind.
When meeting a woman for the first time you have to always be considerate towards her while directing her towards your ultimate goal of being with her. When your mum said that manners are important. She was right. Particularly when you meet an attractive girl for the first time. You meet her, you then talk to her and then you direct her by giving your number and telling her what you'd like to do next with her. Then she has the power to pursuit you if she liked you.
1)Meet
Hi my name is....
2)Talk
I couldn't help take my eyes off you and had to come say hello.
3)Direct
Here is my number I'd like to hang out with you some time. Enjoy the rest of your evening.
Simple and authentic. Doing this makes a statement and takes away any games that girls like to play with a guy.
Mark
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Monday, 21 October 2013
Confident Men - Part 1: External Confidence Seeker
Here is part one of the two part articles that I am releasing to my readers about male confidence and the fact that there exists two types. The External Confidence seeker and the Internal Confident Man.
External Confidence Seeker
What you are about to read is the honest truth and will set you free in the world. Once you realise that you fit into this archetype, realise its been programmed into you and you can become aware of what's happening and change things for yourself.
The external confidence seeker is a guy who is reactive to the environment he exists within. He is totally at odds with what is going on around him and reacts to what comes his way. He will not only be emotionally attached to girls, he will believe he can read minds of people and be afraid to speak his own mind to those around him. Because of this he tends to be silent and lash out on those closest to him and loves to complain and vent his frustrations of others. Why?
Because he believes that if he invests his time and money into others, he believes that they owe his for that. He believes giving his resources out to the world makes him entitled by others. There is a huge problem...he doesn't communicate very well so those around him, people view him as being very passive and at times erratic in his mood. If things don't go his way eventually this type of guy gets angry and frustrated.
Girls know that there are guys out there that will buy them what they want to be with them. They know that these guys will try buy their validation as a worth sexual partner and she will happily continue dating this guy for his gifts and money. He will not fulfil her need for his leadership and her sexual desire to be wild. But the most important thing is...he will not be overtly sexual with her. This is bad for him. He won't know if she finds him attractive, he doesn't communicate that he is sexually interested in her and instead acts friendly towards her and turns the girl off sexually or worst of all the girl sees him as an opportunity to use him for his money.
5 things these guys need to know:
1) Don't be afraid of what a woman will say to you.
2) Say whats on your mind and tell them what you are thinking. Honesty!
3) Don't use your money or invest into the girl before you get to know her alot better and that means sexually.
4) Don't be afraid of thinking dirty thoughts about her, she will be thinking the same thing so let her know and unleash her wild side.
5) Compliment her on how she looks and look her up and down like you are studying every part of her body. Allow yourself to be turned on by her. A girl likes a guy who likes the way they look.
Remember: When a guy doesn't communicate or be firm with a woman then she will play up on him. She will order him around and demand respect by disrespecting him and if he doesn't stand up his happiness is in jeopardy. He needs to command respect from her by being upfront and honest while remaining in a controlled state of mind (A man's happiness is his own.) It's not your job to make her happy, its your job to make her feel special and sexy.
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External Confidence Seeker
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| Referred to as The "Nice guy", "The Friend" and the "Beta male". |
The external confidence seeker is a guy who is reactive to the environment he exists within. He is totally at odds with what is going on around him and reacts to what comes his way. He will not only be emotionally attached to girls, he will believe he can read minds of people and be afraid to speak his own mind to those around him. Because of this he tends to be silent and lash out on those closest to him and loves to complain and vent his frustrations of others. Why?
Because he believes that if he invests his time and money into others, he believes that they owe his for that. He believes giving his resources out to the world makes him entitled by others. There is a huge problem...he doesn't communicate very well so those around him, people view him as being very passive and at times erratic in his mood. If things don't go his way eventually this type of guy gets angry and frustrated.
Girls know that there are guys out there that will buy them what they want to be with them. They know that these guys will try buy their validation as a worth sexual partner and she will happily continue dating this guy for his gifts and money. He will not fulfil her need for his leadership and her sexual desire to be wild. But the most important thing is...he will not be overtly sexual with her. This is bad for him. He won't know if she finds him attractive, he doesn't communicate that he is sexually interested in her and instead acts friendly towards her and turns the girl off sexually or worst of all the girl sees him as an opportunity to use him for his money.
5 things these guys need to know:
1) Don't be afraid of what a woman will say to you.
2) Say whats on your mind and tell them what you are thinking. Honesty!
3) Don't use your money or invest into the girl before you get to know her alot better and that means sexually.
4) Don't be afraid of thinking dirty thoughts about her, she will be thinking the same thing so let her know and unleash her wild side.
5) Compliment her on how she looks and look her up and down like you are studying every part of her body. Allow yourself to be turned on by her. A girl likes a guy who likes the way they look.
Remember: When a guy doesn't communicate or be firm with a woman then she will play up on him. She will order him around and demand respect by disrespecting him and if he doesn't stand up his happiness is in jeopardy. He needs to command respect from her by being upfront and honest while remaining in a controlled state of mind (A man's happiness is his own.) It's not your job to make her happy, its your job to make her feel special and sexy.
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Thursday, 17 October 2013
Self Confidence - Critical to any Success
As I am writing this article I have a relaxed smile upon my face thinking of all the things that make life plain and simply good. All the bullshit of life goes way and you think "damn this life is good". Simple is better. I think we always knew that from the very start of our beginning in life. Along the way our mind picks up on things, we absorb the things that defines us. Maturity is knowing thy self and going into the world unafraid pursuing what we want with confidence.
The one problem today is its so damn noisey. As we are bombarded with things through media and other peoples opinions. We begin to buy into what others tell us to be the right way. Our freedom is dictated by external matters and we begin to not know thy self and rely on others opinions of us to form who we are.
It can be great at the top of the world and then one day you will find yourself come crashing down burning crying like a baby who has had his favourite toy stolen from him and wants it back! External gratification is a dangerous thing. Those who seek it can potentially go insane or soon realise its not all that it plays out to be.
You don't have to take my word for it just have a look at celebrities and their relationship with the media. The media makes them gods then the next day takes it all away leaving them to seek more godliness from them. This is not healthy this is insanity built on hype.
Ones self should be a constant. A man must be a constant in his own world and must love himself to receive love from others. How do you define confidence? Well I believe there is two forms of it. One is fleeting and the other is constant. But the paradox is that the constant interacts with a fleeting world and the fleeting interacts with fleeting chance hoping for a constant.
Those men that rely on external sources for confidence run into more problems then those who self generate from within in a constant wave. The two are miles apart in their own quest. First one wants validation and wants to know he is valid in the world externally and the other believes he is valid and goes forth in his own belief that he is enough.
I would like to address both these two forms of confidence (External confidence and Internal confidence) in further articles. In both these artcles you will gain a greater understand of yourself as a man and you will become conscious in yourself. The purpose is for you to learn and become a more fulfilled individual with greater understanding.
Why is Confidence important?
To be able to interact in the world you must have a level of self confidence. Confidence is attractive and magnetic. Real confidence shows to another person that deep down you have a healthy level of love and respect for your own yourself.
I strongly suggest you read The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand as you will probably have one of those aha moments. For those who are not into reading long books then this is not the book for you. Alternatively you can get a copy of the audiobook listen in your down time or dismiss it all together. Ayn Rand is a fantastic advocate of men being in love with themselves first in order to receive love from women. She wrote many books that preach this whole heartedly.
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Mark
The one problem today is its so damn noisey. As we are bombarded with things through media and other peoples opinions. We begin to buy into what others tell us to be the right way. Our freedom is dictated by external matters and we begin to not know thy self and rely on others opinions of us to form who we are.
It can be great at the top of the world and then one day you will find yourself come crashing down burning crying like a baby who has had his favourite toy stolen from him and wants it back! External gratification is a dangerous thing. Those who seek it can potentially go insane or soon realise its not all that it plays out to be.
You don't have to take my word for it just have a look at celebrities and their relationship with the media. The media makes them gods then the next day takes it all away leaving them to seek more godliness from them. This is not healthy this is insanity built on hype.
Ones self should be a constant. A man must be a constant in his own world and must love himself to receive love from others. How do you define confidence? Well I believe there is two forms of it. One is fleeting and the other is constant. But the paradox is that the constant interacts with a fleeting world and the fleeting interacts with fleeting chance hoping for a constant.
Those men that rely on external sources for confidence run into more problems then those who self generate from within in a constant wave. The two are miles apart in their own quest. First one wants validation and wants to know he is valid in the world externally and the other believes he is valid and goes forth in his own belief that he is enough.
I would like to address both these two forms of confidence (External confidence and Internal confidence) in further articles. In both these artcles you will gain a greater understand of yourself as a man and you will become conscious in yourself. The purpose is for you to learn and become a more fulfilled individual with greater understanding.
Why is Confidence important?
To be able to interact in the world you must have a level of self confidence. Confidence is attractive and magnetic. Real confidence shows to another person that deep down you have a healthy level of love and respect for your own yourself.
I strongly suggest you read The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand as you will probably have one of those aha moments. For those who are not into reading long books then this is not the book for you. Alternatively you can get a copy of the audiobook listen in your down time or dismiss it all together. Ayn Rand is a fantastic advocate of men being in love with themselves first in order to receive love from women. She wrote many books that preach this whole heartedly.
If you find this article helpful? Pass on the knowledge by sharing and liking this article. Don't forget to subscribe to our RSS feed to receive updates on new articles.
Mark
Friday, 11 October 2013
*Controversial* Who cares what the Woman is thinking about
To all the men reading this article I want you to read this all carefully and take in everything being expressed. If you have to read it twice then so be it. The things write are for your knowledge and wisdom. If it feels all new to you and hits you like a bolt of lightning giving you a shock to your core then GOOD!
In the animal kingdom there exists two purposes in life and maybe three if you are lower on the food chain. To Eat, Fuck and run (if you are in danger of getting eaten). Animals are incredible.. They go about doing their thing and they don't seem to exhibit much trouble in their life. They aren't complicated beings like we are. They are simple and they live a life that is uncomplicated and there is only one prick that can ruin it for them and that's us. We use our brains. We change the environment focusing on our own species survival and strength.
What we forget is that we are animal. Its in our DNA. We have brains that make us smarter than other animals yet we are still animal like them. We should only have two things in our mind. Eat and fuck. We don't have to think about running because our ancestors have helped us to the top of the food chain. You could say no that's not true....I have to get an education. I have to work. I have to do this and that. You will find it ultimately leads to being able to eat and fuck.
So when you are going about getting those two things you have to focus and go about doing it. Easy right? You focus in your job and you focus when playing sport yet when it comes to women a guys focus goes wayward or completely out the window. Either fear comes in or a sense of shame in the pursuit of a woman.
To understand this you have to realise that there should not be a senses of shame or fear when in the pursuit of a beautiful desirable woman. You are born to do it! If your father didn't do it you wouldn't have been born and he wouldn't have been born if his father didn't this is just reality of life. I believe you have the right to pursue as many women as you desire however you won't desire alot of them. You simply won't find them attractive. One way or another you won't find some girls attractive. That's natural. If you look at a girl and feel attracted to her you pursue her.
This lead me to my main topic of this write up.
Who cares what she's thinking about. Ok first a little background story.
I remember being young losing sleeping over chasing beautiful young women. I would be a gentlemen and small talk them for awhile, they would walk off in a friendly manner and I'd then chase them around. I began to focusing on courting girls and being more present and creating the action with the girl was the way to fast forward the relationship with a woman. On a subconscious level I didn't know it but I was leading them physically moving them and playful grabbing them in dominant ways with the focus on only myself and having fun. I realise the one thing in the past that was really getting me in my head was listening to the woman. When I listen to the woman I began to try to think about what she was thinking about. It was a complete mind trap.
When it comes to a relationships with women you can only think about one person and that person is YOU! Only you. When a girl asks me something I'd reply to them with "I" statements.
You are the most important person in the interaction after all you are the one who the survival of the species depends on. Don't forget that. You are the most important person in the interaction and deep down every girl know this. You just have to believe this and go forth getting her. You are more valuable than her.
When I began to not listen to girls and signalling to them that i'm the most important person within the interaction I began to have way more fun. I was able to lead interaction towards what a man and woman ultimately want each other for...Sex.
In your mind you should look at a desirable girl just like you look at a yummy looking bit of steak. You start cooking it and you think about how its going to taste when you are devouring it. When its cooked enough you then eat. Simple right?
Apply the same thing to women. You see her. You desire her. You go about getting her. You focus and you get. Just like that piece of Steak. You lead the steak to the BBQ. You cook it and then you eat it. The steak won't cook itself for you and jump on your plate. You have to do the work for yourself and the steak becomes tasty for you. The girl is not different.
When you focus on the girl you get her by not listening to what she says. I would say that the majority of what a girl says is entirely based on her emotional state and depending on how she feels. But I don't know what a girl is thinking about and as a man neither should you we are not females. You have to focus on what you want to do with her and slowly or adventurously go forth getting towards that plan. Now don't think for a second that she does know you are pursuing her. Girls know you are so just enjoy the process and go through with it. ITS EXPECTED OF YOU!
PS. If a girl says No and really doesn't like you don't worry about it. She's not that kind of steak that you are after. Move on you've got genes to spread!
All the best
Mark
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In the animal kingdom there exists two purposes in life and maybe three if you are lower on the food chain. To Eat, Fuck and run (if you are in danger of getting eaten). Animals are incredible.. They go about doing their thing and they don't seem to exhibit much trouble in their life. They aren't complicated beings like we are. They are simple and they live a life that is uncomplicated and there is only one prick that can ruin it for them and that's us. We use our brains. We change the environment focusing on our own species survival and strength.
What we forget is that we are animal. Its in our DNA. We have brains that make us smarter than other animals yet we are still animal like them. We should only have two things in our mind. Eat and fuck. We don't have to think about running because our ancestors have helped us to the top of the food chain. You could say no that's not true....I have to get an education. I have to work. I have to do this and that. You will find it ultimately leads to being able to eat and fuck.
So when you are going about getting those two things you have to focus and go about doing it. Easy right? You focus in your job and you focus when playing sport yet when it comes to women a guys focus goes wayward or completely out the window. Either fear comes in or a sense of shame in the pursuit of a woman.
To understand this you have to realise that there should not be a senses of shame or fear when in the pursuit of a beautiful desirable woman. You are born to do it! If your father didn't do it you wouldn't have been born and he wouldn't have been born if his father didn't this is just reality of life. I believe you have the right to pursue as many women as you desire however you won't desire alot of them. You simply won't find them attractive. One way or another you won't find some girls attractive. That's natural. If you look at a girl and feel attracted to her you pursue her.
This lead me to my main topic of this write up.
Who cares what she's thinking about. Ok first a little background story.
I remember being young losing sleeping over chasing beautiful young women. I would be a gentlemen and small talk them for awhile, they would walk off in a friendly manner and I'd then chase them around. I began to focusing on courting girls and being more present and creating the action with the girl was the way to fast forward the relationship with a woman. On a subconscious level I didn't know it but I was leading them physically moving them and playful grabbing them in dominant ways with the focus on only myself and having fun. I realise the one thing in the past that was really getting me in my head was listening to the woman. When I listen to the woman I began to try to think about what she was thinking about. It was a complete mind trap.
When it comes to a relationships with women you can only think about one person and that person is YOU! Only you. When a girl asks me something I'd reply to them with "I" statements.
You are the most important person in the interaction after all you are the one who the survival of the species depends on. Don't forget that. You are the most important person in the interaction and deep down every girl know this. You just have to believe this and go forth getting her. You are more valuable than her.
When I began to not listen to girls and signalling to them that i'm the most important person within the interaction I began to have way more fun. I was able to lead interaction towards what a man and woman ultimately want each other for...Sex.
In your mind you should look at a desirable girl just like you look at a yummy looking bit of steak. You start cooking it and you think about how its going to taste when you are devouring it. When its cooked enough you then eat. Simple right?
Apply the same thing to women. You see her. You desire her. You go about getting her. You focus and you get. Just like that piece of Steak. You lead the steak to the BBQ. You cook it and then you eat it. The steak won't cook itself for you and jump on your plate. You have to do the work for yourself and the steak becomes tasty for you. The girl is not different.
When you focus on the girl you get her by not listening to what she says. I would say that the majority of what a girl says is entirely based on her emotional state and depending on how she feels. But I don't know what a girl is thinking about and as a man neither should you we are not females. You have to focus on what you want to do with her and slowly or adventurously go forth getting towards that plan. Now don't think for a second that she does know you are pursuing her. Girls know you are so just enjoy the process and go through with it. ITS EXPECTED OF YOU!
PS. If a girl says No and really doesn't like you don't worry about it. She's not that kind of steak that you are after. Move on you've got genes to spread!
All the best
Mark
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